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Originally Posted By: Eugene
Originally Posted By: Gerk
Yeah, yeah. I have been an asshole as of late. No, really! It's true!
I have been alouf, distant, isolating myself, uncaring, unsympatheic, selfish (yes, I too was shocked at this one), stuborn, passive, self-centered, There was no fight. No argument. No unreasonable demands. ... then it became a situation where I just didn't care if I spoke to her or not. Complacent, ya know?
So...... a couple of weeks later, she calls and I missed it. Didn't call back (Asshole = Me). She tried once more by email, and this time I replied "I'm just not feeling talkitive, is all" (You ever have one of those momments when your reply to something seems to be so perfect/rational/sensitive/informative, only to mull it over later and realise "whoops"?).


Even you must realize by now that you're a CHICK, based on what you've typed.

I doubt even Wooly could salvage this one.




Is that why you keep PM'ing me with all that poetry shit? I thought the ladies here were makin' all that stuff up about you PM'ing them with... uh... "invitations" and shit... Seriously old man, get a Sweetie. You don't have much time left.

Originally Posted By: Karen
I seem to be in the same mood as you the past 2 weeks or so.
Im not fighting with anyone, I just dont want to be bothered.
depression? who knows.

Best thing to do is to just call her, or send flowers if she is the type that would like them. A nice funny card might work?
Just explain what you just wrote to her. Im sure at some point she has felt the same way

Yeah Karen, she had a hand in this as well - to a degree. She was also distant from me, so I am sure she has been feeling something simular. (Maybe she is content with the ways things are? Maybe she welcomes this as a means of a "un-messy" break-up or something, ya know?)
I would call her, but I know that's gonna be tough. That is, if she actually answered. I do have my doubts on that. The flowers thing, although "long-in-the-tooth", may just very well be something I act on. She likes flowers, and it would be cool for her to get some delivered.... IF she accepts them lol. I know she has felt the way I do about not wanting to be bothered by anyone (no one in particular), but as in all relationships, things are not equal when it comes to emotional/situational things. Know what I mean? That is not to say she is unreasonable or anything.... no no no... just that the expectaions are different and therefore the reason doesn't always seem to "cut it" - no matter what. Uhm... I don't think I'm explaining this right. (Shit! If I can't write it here, how in the hell am I gonna explain ANYTHING to her!?!?).

Originally Posted By: quante
One month is a long time.

Flowers and dinner is going to be wholly inadequate.

You have to convince her that you really care (assuming you do).

A poem.

A heartfelt letter of apology (not an e-mail, but you might e-mail her that you sent her a letter regular mail so even MORE time does not pass).

Make time for her.

If it's not already too late. You have a lot of work to do.

Yeah, convince her that I really care, which I most certainly do. Like write a poem? Or maybe a thread in a Springsteen forum? wink

I don't know about the letter thing. It's not so much a matter of apology, I think, as it is to communicate what the situation actually was. Right? I mean, to a degree (as I stated to Karen) she participated as well. Not that I am assigning blame or anything, I am just trying to state that I dont really feel as though I have anything to apologize for - other than not "feeing" like talking with her (but also EVERYONE else) for quite some time. I think where I fucked up was in believing that she would understand "automatically" or something and not give me any grief about it later. I just assumed that she would not have a problem with it, and that she even might enjoy the "vacation" from me (maybe she enjoyed it so much that all this brainstorming is moot).

"Make time for her"

That has got to be the best thing I have ever read of yours.

I dunno if it's too late. Only way I will find out is if/when I talk to her again. Guess we'll see.

Originally Posted By: Mars
It's okay Gerk ... I forgive you ... just call me wink

just kiddin' ... I will send you a PM

[sigh]... uh, Mars? Is that REALLY your phone number?(or am I going to end up calling Ivan or something?)... yes Mars, I am gorgeous.... No Mars, I am not "single" yet.... No Mars, I do not live in the US "close to you".... Yes Mars, I know what an airplane is.... Yes Mars, my dark brown eyes would make your knees weak.... No Mars, I do not use Viagra. No need.... No Mars, I don't have any naked photos of myself for you.... Mars, I like you as a friend.... wink

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